Still not at the other side!! But, some interesting commentary on what it’s like..

Ok, so today’s post will be about two things — one, where I’m at currently — and two, what I heard recently from a friend who is recently married, aka, at the other side.

Currently, I’ve been dating a guy for almost a month, and I’m starting to see more and more of his personality — I like a LOT of things about him, but he can be fairly arrogant about certain things — his looks, for one, and thinking he’s awesome in general, and how healthy he thinks he is because he has abs. The arrogance grates on me. But is it something that should be enough to make me say “pass” ?? 

He also has a tendency to make plans to get together but not actually go any further than that, so he shows up and asks what I want to do. On the spot. And I’m like, I didn’t know I was supposed to make a plan. He will say we can do anything you want! So I say, okay, well, uh…let me go Google what’s going on today that we can make at a certain time, etc.

And, it’s kind of stressful! It ends up being fun (obvy, cause my ideas rock) but I asked him the other day to give me a few days if he wants me to come up with something. 

He then told me he’s worried I think he is boring! But I don’t, I just want him to come up with stuff. Is that too much to ask? Are guys capable of planning dates — if they live 45 min away from you?

Next, and this is a big red flag, he swears at me jokingly — as in, eff-you (but says the whole thing, not “eff” — ) and that is absolutely not OK with me, given that an ex did that then one day dropped the C-bomb. You don’t recover from that easily. So, no, not OK. And he defends himself. The situation was, some person was going to drive into us and I said OMG OMG stop! And he said I would never let anything happen to you, did you really think I didn’t see the car? And I paused and said, well… I guess, yes, and he got mad and was like oh yeah well how is this EFF YOU. 

So I simply stopped talking, looked at him, and said — that’s not okay. Unacceptable.  And he got mad. 

So we will see…. I def have my doubts. But there are things I really like about him. He’s very very affectionate, sexy as heck sometimes, tries hard to live a healthier life than he has in the past, is an awesome dad to his daughter, etc.

 

Ok so on to the next part about commentary from the other side  — she says, she’s bored. She said when you’re single you spend your time worrying about if you will find the person, and then you get married, and then it’s not a fairytale. It’s just life as usual. 

So, marriage is not the end all and be all. I think we all knew that, but finding the one doesn’t magically make your life feel blessed and amazing every day. I think that really has to come inside from the individual. I do know one person who swears her life is a fairytale, even through all the ups and downs, but I think it’s cause she truly wants to look at it that way, so it BECOMES that. Thoughts become things.

Like with this guy, I wonder if I’m putting him under a microscope and focusing on the negative — like I’m looking for disqualifiers — instead of focusing more on the good things. Granted, you can’t pass on big red flags like swearing at you in favor of good qualities.

Thoughts?

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Back to the drawing board!

Heyyy beautiful readers,

So, yeah, seems like mr wonderful went completely AWOL. Doesn’t even care to get his ray ban glasses back! So I will be putting them up for sale on eBay. Lol. My friends said good frames can earn some cash and then people just get new lenses to match their prescription.

Anywho, talking to this new guy from match who seems legit. We will see. It seems like a lot of guys from online are pretty flaky. Let’s just call it datesforflakes.com instead shall we?

So this new guy, tattoos, works out, just sold his house looking to buy another, low key lifestyle, and seems attractive, but I haven’t met him yet. Potentially sometime this week. But it kind of seems like he stopped texting as much after we became facebook friends, which I have never had happen before. Then again it was also the same day he sold his place and he doesn’t have a new place to live yet, so im sure he’s trying to secure a new place to live haha.

There is this other guy I’m talking to who is very funny but I don’t know if he is my type…faux hawk.

Oh, and blast from the past guy who I was supposed to go out with Sunday night ended up canceling because apparently his mom wanted help moving stuff and didn’t tell him until Sunday. ??? No idea. Whatever. It was a little weird anyway because apparently he made reservations for this downtown nice French restaurant and he texted me Sat night saying he had an awful night at work and could really use a good Sunday and, so I said hopefully it will be! And no response. Plus he never called me. Kind of odd right? Anyway.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s because of my pets that I have a harder time dating than others… Like, I have two dogs and a cat. I guess that’s a lot to walk into? Idk. I’m just trying to live my life to the fullest and if I had a steady boyfriend I maybe never would have gotten a dog to begin with at this stage in my life.

I’ve also really gotten into working out lately-I’m following Jamie Eason’s bodybuilding.com plan, and boy is it a workout! I’ve never lifted like this but I’m loving it. Hopefully I see the changes in my body that I want to.

Ok that’s all for tonight. Love yas!