Well, I went on two Match dates this week (I know, look at me go!) first one was…promising to start but the guy blew it, by making comments about how he was checking out my butt when it was my turn to bowl, and before that he just casually mentioned how he was out on anger match date last week. Like oh, we talk about who else we are dating already?? Weird.

but, other than that things were ok, so I agreed to go play pool with him. There was a drunk chick there, who said he was staring at my butt everytime I took a turn. Then he basically launched himself at me once we got in the car to drive him back across the street to his car. So I was like, okay, I guess we will kiss now! I mean, before I even got my keys in the ignition.

then when we were driving he made some comment about how we should probably only work out together after we have sex. Like, oh, now we are definitely having sex? What? So huge turn off. Get to his car and he tried to turn a good night kiss into a make out session, attempting to take my coat off etc. i had to kind of break off the kissing … Twice.

decided not to see him again, even though he asked why, the all but begged my forgiveness.

date with guys number two:

we decide to meet for coffee. 4 hours later… We end the date. Time flew by 🙂 just talking. When I first saw him I thought, way cuter in person! Good dresser, work out (crossfit) , and he is super charismatic. Great talker. Likes to tell stories. Cute laugh that takes over a room. Boundless energy. He is merry! mechanic for the past seven years, firefighter for the past two, wants to go full time with that and will, lives in town, active… Yeah. Just seems like a great guy. Someone I’d be happy to bring around my family. Proud to be with in general. 

I feel energized after the date and am on edge about hoping it’s him every time the phone goes… Then I get a text about how he had a great time, best date all year, and how he thinks I’m beautiful 🙂 yay!!  Here we go…hold on readers it could be a fun ride 😉

eHarmony Date One

Hi guys~

SO I just got back from date one on Eharmony. I’m a little drunk. We split a bottle of wine, and I don’t drink much, and I weigh all of 130 lbs, so 2.5 glasses of wine in the span of two hours will get me a buzz, especially not eating much for dinner! (ordered salmon, couldnt eat it all)

So, we got along really well, he’s totally cute in a conservative, preppy kind of way, which is SO usually not my type, because usually I see myself as damaged goods. But not lately, lately I’m like fucking super woman for living though what I lived through and still being me. 

Anyway, the conversation flowed, things went well, he said talk to you soon at the end of the date and made several future references, although sometimes i”m like crap I’m too tipsy and I ruined it. We will see. 🙂

He went to the college I wanted to go to, has a good job, had a long relationship, im his first eHarmony date, he coaches football, etc.

It would be like, the happily ever after perfect match. but still, part of me feels like – is he going to accept the tattooed, pierced belly button side of me?

…in the meantime, this hot guy from Facebook and I are talking. he’s a polar opposite from eharmony — tattooes, single dad, construction worker, love everything he stands for. So he meshes with the rebel side of me, not quite fitting in side of me. But maybe not the professional side of me?

I’m such an anomaly. 

Date tomorrow night!

HI girls (and guys) — so, I have my first eHarmony date tomorrow night. I think this was one guy I thought was cute in the “what ifs” and sent him a message. 

He responded, we did their guided communication thing for a bit and then he jumped to email in eHarmony, and then personal emails, and now we text. 

Things I like so far: -he coaches high school football part time, he’s in construction management (so can we say manly man so far?), he does what he says he will (i.e. said he would text me this past weekend and did) – he’s NOT an over-texter -he kind of texts back at random times, but is consistent in his time lapses — so I don’t feel like he’s constantly hounding me via text and that I have to “keep up” but he still keeps me guessing. 

He also suggested meeting up with me near me, even though he lives in the city, and then asked if I had any places to suggest but before I could answer suggested somewhere nice, he’s interested in my work — all good things.

Haven’t met him yet, but from the two photos online (yep, 2) he seemed attractive.

And while usually I’d want more pics, I’m kind of excited that it’s potentially a little bit blind. 🙂

In preparation, I got my nails done yesterday. They are SO short right now but I got gel anyway, OH! My manicurist gave me some awesome tips if you get gel nails and they dull out from hairspray, gel, etc — pour alcohol on a cotton swab and rub it on your nails! Restores shine. How awesome???

I also got in to beautifulpeople.com, but honestly there aren’t that many people in the area, and most people haven’t logged in for about a month. Awesome, right? And darwindating.com, which is the same kind of philosophy. Hey, casting a wide net ladies.

Book recommendation: Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match 

Why you should read this book: If you’re single, and you’ve been looking, it teaches you how to change your attitude so you don’t air a sense of desperation while you’re trying to find your man. People can always sense that. It also helps you to be happy with where you are in life RIGHT NOW, so that you give of happy vibes, and men (And women) like that. Seriously, check it out. Recommended to me by my therapist (And she’s been dead-on with her book recommendations so far).

Ciao!

A few things I wish online daters knew.

-Most women do not like facial hair. Shave. (Yes, I understand that some do, but there is a disproportional amount of profiles I see of guys with facial hair. Think about it…)

-If you put up only “attractive” photos of you, then we become Facebook friends and I don’t like the rest of your photos, don’t be surprised when the communication drops. False advertising.

-I don’t think most people really want to email or text forever. If someone seems interested enough, ask to meet up. Otherwise you will probably cause them to lose interest.

-If you wouldn’t be confident enough to approach me at a bar, then you probably shouldn’t try to email me.

-If a person has a bunch of photos you find attractive and then one that makes you go “eek” — they probably look like the “eek” photo the majority of the time.

-Be picky! If you’re looking for head over heels love, and you CAN find it btw, then don’t settle for people you think are “OKay” Okay doesn’t make you fall and stay in love.

 

So I’d like to be in love again. I’ve dated guys, but I haven’t fallen in love in years. At least where it’s been returned, and the guy didn’t decided to take a job in Texas at about the same time we were taking off, and so on and so forth. 

It seems like everyone around me is coupled up. So, it’s like I made the decision that I was ready to try again, and now — I signed up for eHarmony, and — talking to a few people, nobody I’m excited about, there is one potential who, I’m not really sure if he’s attractive or not — he only had two pics up, and no facebook for all that I can tell. He mentioned getting drinks this week, but I’m not sure if that will happen.

Also, I get emails daily (so far) by people that I look at and think, …ok, not to be mean, but if you saw me in a bar would you EVER think you had a chance with me?  –that just gave me an idea to (join?) beautifulpeople.com — so far the reviews online seem scammy, but we’ll see what happens. So far I’m being voted “in” — basically other members vote on you for 48 hours and if you get more green than red you get to join the site. Oh man. This is funny. … once you sign up there is a running tally of people who vote you “beautiful” and “hmmmm okay” and “no” and “absolutely not” — LOL. Gosh, if I don’t make it that will be funny (I modeled, and as you guys know get a good share of dates) — anyway back to eharmony–

it’s slow as f-k. 

Match was so much faster!! As far as emails, etc. But, I’m not doing match, so whatever. hehe. 

And, I will let you know (IF I get in) how many “beautiful people” there are in my area … to be continued.