OK, so Tuesday … yes day after I wrote my last post, CP called me (yes, CALLED) on his lunch break from work to make plans for that night. He suggested fireworks (even though, come to find out our town wasn’t having fireworks that night… he didn’t exactly research it) and then asked to cash in on the dinner offer I made. I said sure.
He estimated 6 ish for being home, but, didn’t actually get home til about 8:30, so dinner didn’t start cooking til 9, so it wasn’t ready until about 9:45. I made linguini with a white wine reduction sauce, decased sausage and peas. It was fairly yummy. It was nice cooking, drinking white wine spritzers (he drank beer) and just chatting.
I think he *really* liked that I cooked for him. After dinner, he basically launched himself at me, which he usually is pretty laid back and takes his time with hooking up. We hooked up on the couch, which was kind of hot, i was wearing a jean mini skirt so I was fully clothed the whole time >;) and after dinner, he offered to “go out” cause he kinda knew I wanted to….
Given that he was so huffy about the money thing, I immediately offered to pay, and went to start a tab, but he stopped the bartender and said he got this one, so … 🙂 I KNEW the money thing was that he didn’t want me to expect it. Anyways, so we had drinks, got back to his place, and I said, I felt like I should do the right thing and go home since I’m petsitting and he said ok, I’ll see you soon and kissed me goodbye.
- Kissed me goodbye
- Said see you soon
- When I was cooking, mentioned he’d have to come up with something better than what I was making for next time 😉
- Was happy to see me
- Appreciated dinner
- His coworkers know about me
- His family knows about me
- His friends know about me
- He remembered that he likes when he sits next to me and so moved himself over 🙂
- WTF happened to fireworks? But, life happens….
Big Huge Negative:
We talked about possibly doing 4th of July fireworks together the next day, but he said he had already talked to his brother about it and felt bad because his brother has “no friends.” So he said he’d text me and let me know what happens, but that text never came 😦 So I called him, (litmus test: if he was a friend, what would I do?) it rang through and I left a voicemail telling him to shoot me a text or something and let me know what was happening but that I was in Plymouth and may or may not be back anyways – and, no response.
Back to playing it Cool as a Cucumber. See if this Playing It Cool thing really does work wonders.
Granted, given everything that happened I’m pretty sure he has every intention of seeing me again 🙂
I told my stepmom my strategy, of just playing it by ear taking it day by day and not really worrying about the future and so on, because most of the time plans dont work out as you want them to anyways, and people can disappoint you a lot several months into it, so why not just enjoy everything for what it is? And she said yeah, don’t play games, it will never get you anywhere.
Avy, on the other hand, said that I just put myself in friends with benefits category by sleeping with him after kind of a weird weekend, and not discussing what things were. In my mind, though, CP and I just kind of established that we’re still in the preliminary stages and figuring it out, not sure where it’s going yet.
She kind of rained on my parade, TBH. I know she didn’t mean to.
But here’s the thing….
- He cooked twice for me
- He brought me away for a weekend with his friends who are couples
- We have addressed the future and he’s never said he didn’t want a relationship or wasn’t ready… I think he’s just scared
- He liked the idea of me cooking for him
- He hung out with my brother and his gf
- His coworkers know about me
- We go out for drinks
But when I bring up dating other people, he says he doesn’t want me to miss out on an opportunity and he doesn’t know where he sees this going yet so to do what I feel is best if something comes up and to let him know if it does. But I feel like that was a surface answer. Obviously you don’t want someone you’re screwing to screw someone else!!!